5 Subtle Signs You’re in a Toxic Work Relationship (and What to Do About It)
- rouladahhak
- May 31
- 2 min read
When we talk about toxic relationships, we often think of romantic partners or family. But many people suffer silently in toxic workplace relationships—whether with a manager, coworker, or team culture that erodes self-worth, trust, and peace of mind.
Here are 5 subtle (but damaging) signs you might be in one—and what to do to begin reclaiming your power.
1. You’re Constantly Second-Guessing Yourself
Toxic colleagues often use subtle manipulation—like gaslighting or undermining—to make you feel confused or incompetent. If you're constantly questioning your decisions or feel like nothing you do is "good enough," it's a red flag.
Coaching tip: Document your work, acknowledge your accomplishments, and reflect on your true capabilities. You are not the problem.
2. You Walk on Eggshells Around a Coworker or Boss
If you're always monitoring your tone, words, or even body language to avoid setting someone off, your nervous system is likely on high alert. This is a classic trauma response—often a result of chronic psychological stress.
Coaching tip: Notice how often you’re silencing your needs or feelings. That’s not professionalism—that’s survival.
3. They Undermine or Take Credit for Your Work
Being excluded from meetings, having your ideas dismissed or stolen, or being blamed for mistakes you didn’t make are common toxic workplace tactics. They chip away at your confidence over time.
Coaching tip: Set boundaries when possible and document interactions. A pattern of sabotage is not a misunderstanding—it’s mistreatment.
4. You Feel Drained, Dreadful, or Anxious Before Work
Our bodies know the truth. If you find yourself physically tense, emotionally depleted, or mentally checked out before you even start your day, something deeper may be going on.
Coaching tip: Pay attention to your body’s signals. Emotional exhaustion is a form of harm.
5. You're Made to Feel "Too Sensitive" When You Speak Up
Minimizing your concerns, calling you dramatic, or joking at your expense are signs of emotional manipulation. Toxic environments thrive when employees are shamed into silence.
Coaching tip: Your emotions are data, not overreactions. Your sense of injustice is not only valid—it’s wise.
Healing Starts with Awareness
You deserve a healthy work environment that supports your growth—not one that makes you feel small, unsafe, or invisible.
If you’ve experienced emotional harm in the workplace, it’s not just “part of the job.” It’s a wound—and it can be healed.
Through coaching, we explore how to rebuild confidence, release self-blame, and reestablish healthy boundaries—so you can show up to work without fear, and walk away when necessary without guilt.
👉 Visit www.coachingposttoxicrelationship.com to book a free discovery call.
Call: 314-296-4404
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